
The relationship with my other friend is still tender even into our thirties. When emotionally challenged by the other, we fall into the same roles we had as teenagers. When this happens, I feel ashamed. My intent was to approach the situation with compassion and love, but I end up sounding pushy and frustrated. I want to tell her I'm on her side but the more I try to vocalize that, the more I get shut out. The more I get shut out, the guiltier I feel about my inability to give her what she needs.
I try my best to make things right when maybe I don't need to make any thing. Maybe I need to forgive myself and let the cards lay where they fall.
When forgiveness occurs, there is room created for positive change.